Monday, January 29, 2007
The Top Ten Secrets For Great Sex!
by by Philip E. Humbert.
Clearly there are no rules, only what lovers have known since Antony and Cleopatra: "Pay attention, be kind, and be loving". But the following Top Ten List might be a useful reminder! Enjoy!
1. Guys: Great sex starts in the kitchen! Wash the dishes, take out the trash, give her a break, let her know she's appreciated. Romance and exhaustion do not mix -- think about it! (Besides, standing there, side by side, washing and drying those dishes, hands could get to roamin' and motors could get to tickin' ...the most amazing things do happen!)
2. Gals: Tell that old fool just exactly what you've been waiting for! Most males are notoriously poor mind readers, they just don't "get it". So tell him! "A little softer" or "let me show you" goes much further than, "How come you never know what I want?"
3. Guys: Take time! Sex is about fun, relaxation, laughter and love -- this is not a competition or a 50-yard dash to the finish line! Start slow, let it build, then finish strong. A glass of wine, maybe some music, a backrub, even a few minutes of silence can shift the mood and make things verrrry interesting!!
4. Gals: Make Time! How often does sex happen last thing at night, with two exhausted people trying to find each other in the dark? Or, first thing in the morning, half asleep, with bad breath? If sex is important, why not treat it like getting your haircut or picking the kids up after school? In other words, schedule time, put it on the calendar and treat it as a key part of keeping yourself and the family running smoothly.
5. Guys: Think about your 4th date with the woman you love, after you were well acquainted but everything still felt new and exciting. Remember thinking about it, scheduling it, making dinner reservations? Remember being on time? Did you bring flowers, maybe plan something romantic or special? Remember taking a shower and using cologne? Well, guess what -- she's still special and she's still waiting!
6. Gals: If you want great sex, seduce him! This is not rocket science! Most guys are sooooo easy. They're "visual" -- show him what he likes. They're easily flattered -- whisper what he wants to hear. Touch him right there, or if you prefer, right THERE!!! Tease him, just don't be a tease.
7. Guys: Surprise her. Women love that. And, the beauty is, almost anything will work. Surprise her with flowers, with a card, get a baby-sitter for the evening, put a note on the windshield of her car. Even surprise her by cleaning the bathroom! Almost anything will work, just be kind, be gentle, and put a little thought into it.
8. Gals: With all the talk about "size", remember that a man's biggest sex organ is his imagination -- so use your own! Everyone has fantasies -- some romantic, some kinky, maybe even a few that are slightly dangerous or outrageous. What are yours? And, what are his? Why not play dress-up? Why not go on a date with someone "new"?
9. Guys: I just told the gals you have a great imagination -- don't make me a liar! Use it! How long has it been since you had sex in the back seat of a Ford? Would she enjoy a date with a spy? Being seduced by a plumber or "the cable guy"? Is your shower big enough for two? Ever done it at the office -- how about her office?
10. Gals: Take time to add variety and spice with tasteful magazines, toys, movies and beautiful lingerie. For most people (including men) pornography quickly turns into a turn-off, but a little satin and lace, maybe some sensual pictures or using common household items in a whole new way can sure add delight to the old routine. Explore, experiment, lock the bedroom door and play some brand new games! As they say, "Just do it!"
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WHY DO MEN FALL ASLEEP AFTER SEX? Questions & Answers by Kathleen Falken
"My husband conks out right after sex. Why is that, and what can I do about it?"
When Mark Leyner's book WHY DO MEN HAVE NIPPLES? "Hundreds of Questions You'd Only Ask a Doctor After Your Third Martini" came out in July, 2005, it was an instant success.
Publisher's Weekly exclaimed: "Urban legends and perennial wonders get a witty treatment in this lighthearted guide to largely inconsequential yet intriguing aspects of the human body.
"Leyner, a novelist whose writing appears regularly in the New Yorker and GQ, and New York physician Goldberg address food and the body (does coffee stunt your growth?), 'body oddities' (what are goose bumps?), folk remedies (does breast milk cure warts?), drugs (does marijuana help glaucoma?), bathroom humor (why can you ignite a fart?), medical media (is the show ER accurate?), old wives tales (can lip balm be addictive?) and aging (why do old ladies grow beards?). And then there's the sex chapter-definitely the one where the subtitle is most applicable, with questions like 'Can people in wheelchairs still have sex?' and 'Do the kind of underpants men wear affect their fertility?' The book includes e-mail interactions between the authors, which are sometimes funny..."
Now, Leyner has returned with a new book: WHY DO MEN FALL ASLEEP AFTER SEX?: More Questions You'd Only Ask a Doctor After Your Third Whiskey Sour.
Leyner, best known for his satiric novels THE TETHERBALLS OF BOUGAINVILLE and MY COUSIN, MY GASTROENTEROLOGIST might seem an unlikely source of medical information. But after meeting Goldberg, an emergency room physician who is on the faculty of a New York teaching hospital, he has become the logical writer to pass on this much-needed info. As noted in their book's subtitle, it's often after a drink or three that people start asking things like: If I hold in intestinal gas, will I explode? If I hold in pee on a long car trip, will my bladder explode? If I hold in a burp or a belch will I blow my torso off?
In his Introduction, Leyner (with co-author Dr. Billy Goldberg) writes:
"It feels a bit different this time. When we were writing WHY DO MEN HAVE NIPPLES?, we had no idea that anyone (other than our editor, wives, moms, and dads) would read the book. Shows what we know.
"Our little nipples book has sold more than a million copies internationally and spent twenty-five weeks (and counting) on the New York Times bestseller list. You have no idea how much we have loved this ride and how much we adore babbling on TV and drive-time radio, and especially in the makeup rooms where we shamelessly flirted with a succession of fantastic makeup artists at all the major networks. (By the way, Mark prefers the spray-on nozzle method, which he likens to being simonized in a car wash.)
"But a funny thing happened along the way. We quickly became aware of the fact that we'd barely scratched the surface. As we talked to people who'd enjoyed our first book, we began accumulating hundreds of new questions--some funny, down-to-earth, exotic, some embarrassing, some perplexing, but always thought-provoking enough that we knew we'd have to include them in a brand-new volume.
"We realized the gravity of the somber task ahead of us. We felt deputized. We knew we were now bound by honor and a fiduciary duty to you, our readers, to deliver unbiased, unadulterated, thoroughly researched, and unimpeachably factual answers to your questions. Humbled, but galvanized and inspired by the immense challenge that lay before us, we hunkered down in a windowless, antiseptic research cocoon, and made a solemn pledge to produce a new volume that would surpass the original and blaze new trails in the democratization of medical knowledge.
"Oh please . . . SEQUEL!!!!!!! Here it is . . . WHY DO MEN FALL ASLEEP AFTER SEX?"
Barnes & Noble says: "Did the mega-bestselling WHY DO MEN HAVE NIPPLES? exhaust your curiosity about stuff odd, icky, kinky, noxious, libidinous, or just plain embarrassing? No, you say? Well, good, because the doctor and his able-bodied buddy are in! Again! Mark Leyner and Billy Goldberg, M.D., now take on the differences between the sexes -- those burning questions like Why doesn't my husband ever listen? or Why does my wife ALWAYS have to pee? And of course, Why do men fall asleep after sex?, plus plenty of others to keep you fully informed."
Full of smart and funny answers to an onslaught of new questions, all in a do-ask-we'll-tell spirit that entertain and teaches you something at the same time, WHY DO MEN FALL ASLEEP AFTER SEX? offers the real lowdown on everything everyone wants to know about all things anatomical, medical, sexual, nutritional, animal, and mineral, but would only ask a physician after a few too many, like: Why do you have a "bionic" sense of smell when you're pregnant? Does peeing in the shower cure athlete's foot?
Is a dog's mouth clean?
Can you breastfeed with fake boobs?
Does thumb sucking cause buckteeth?
Do your eyebrows grow back if shaved?
Bigger, funnier, and better than ever, WHY DO MEN FALL ASLEEP AFTER SEX? proves that in the battle of the sexes, as in most things, a little Q&A is a safe, effective, minimally invasive remedy.
And the answer to Why do men fall asleep after sex? In part, they say: "After orgasm, both men and women release the chemicals oxytocin, prolactin, gamma amino butyric acid (GABA), and endorphins. Each of these contributes to that roll-over-and-snore feeling. The hormone oxytocin is known to have several effects, including establishment of maternal behavior, stimulation of uterine smooth-muscle contraction at birth, and stimulation of milk ejection (milk letdown). It is also referred to as the "cuddling hormone" because it tends to elicit the need to be close and bond. In one study, oxytocin was shown to inhibit male sexual behavior in prairie voles. Maybe it's the oxytocin that makes us feel satiated and rested.
"GABA and endorphins also both have a calming effect and may make you pass out after sex. So why does the postcoital snooze seem to be so much more a man thing? This may come as quite a shock to some of you self-annointed Don Juans, but whereas men are known to ejaculate in various semicomatose states, such as during prostate exams and while thumbing through dog-eared issues of National Geographic magazine, women -- believe it or not! -- don't always have orgasms during sex, and that keeps them from producing all those other hormones."
If you can't find a copy of WHY DO MEN FALL ASLEEP AFTER SEX? at your local bookstore, you can get one online. If laughter is the best medicine, then this book is a double dose. Get it! You'll be glad you did.
For more articles on psychology, dream-study, spirituality, sexuality and marriage therapy, including her popular "WHAT WOMEN WANT: Her Favorite Sexual Positions" see The GoArticles of Kathlene Falken
About the Author
Kathleen Falken has been a marriage counselor and sex therapist for over 25 years. To read more about modern marriage therapy, see SAVE MY MARRIAGE TODAY!
Foreplay - The 5 Best Tips To Initiate Lovemaking by sacha tarkovsky
Foreplay is meant to increase the sexual arousal of the partners before sexual intercourse and is an essential part of great sex.
There are 5 great tips to making your foreplay more effective, and increase the gratification of intercourse later, and here they are.
What Foreplay Does
Foreplay is meant to break down the barriers between couples, lower their inhibitions, and give an emotional sense of well-being.
It also assists in the man's erection and the woman's vaginal lubrication process.
When Does Foreplay Begin?
There are many actions that can take place prior to actual foreplay. These include romantic (or sexual) conversation, compliments of sexual or romantic nature, various body language signs, or other non-verbal indications. Whatever has been done, when the couple holds hand (general body contact), gives and accepts a kiss, foreplay is said to have begun.
However when some serious kissing has begun, or stroking (massage) or similar, foreplay will lead, hopefully to successful sexual union.
The Five Best Tips of Foreplay
Tip 1 - Search for and concentrate on your partner's erogenous zones.
In a woman they may be the nape of her neck, the underside of her arm, the right side of the calf near the knee, the foot in general, find out where they are, and lightly but persistently stimulate them.
For a man, his lips, nipples, lower back, and especially the inside of his thighs moving away from the penis and scrotum.
Tip 2 - Do not go immediately to your partner's sexual organs.
Remain far away, or if you go close, not to close. Tease and be busy near by, but at the beginning of foreplay its best to avoid the genital areas.
Tip 3 - Do not remain silent.
Let your partner know they are beautiful or handsome; that what they are doing excites you, or letting you do them excites you.
Tip 4 - If available spend sufficient time on or around your partner's nipples. The effect can and does induce the body to release various hormones and enzymes that are enhancing the sexual act.
Be gentle and do not cause any pain as the nipples are always sensitive.
Tip 5 - Include Oral Sex.
Oral sex is by far the greatest tool available in foreplay, and where a woman is concerned, if done properly, can give her a great amount of pleasure, prior to intercourse.
For a man, his erection is strengthened, and his arousal level is raised higher and higher as the oral sex is conducted.
How Long Should Foreplay Last?
Considering it will take about 20 alone for a woman to orgasm from cunnilingus, the entire foreplay can and should last about 45 minutes.
The secret is that the longer the foreplay, the more fulfilling the overall sexual experience for both you and your partner so its important to spend time on it.
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10 SIMPLE STEPS TO SKYROCKET YOUR NATURAL TESTOSTERONE PRODUCTION by Sean Nalewanyj
If there is one substance that could be considered the "holy grail" of muscle growth, testosterone would be it.
Quite simply, testosterone is the most important muscle-building hormone in your body and is one of the limiting factors that determines how much muscle you can ultimately build. Here is just a small handful of the many amazing benefits that increased testosterone levels will provide you with...
- Increased muscle size and strength. - Decreased body fat levels. - Increased sex drive and sexual endurance. - Improved mood. - Decreased levels of "bad" cholesterol.
Sounds pretty good, doesn't it? Well it is, and in this article I'm going to outline 10 simple steps to naturally raise your testosterone levels and achieve all of these incredible benefits. While these steps will not result in "steroid-like" muscle gains, they will definitely contribute to your overall bottomline results.
1) Use compound exercises as the cornerstone of your workouts. I'm talking about the basic, bread-and-butter lifts such as squats, deadlifts, bench presses, rows, chin-ups, dips, lunges and military presses. These exercises will place your muscles under the greatest amount of stress in the gym and will force your body to increase testosterone production.
2) Always train with 100% effort and intensity. If you want to see real muscle gains, you must be willing to push yourself to the limit in the gym. Again, greater muscular stress in the gym translates to higher testosterone output.
3) Train your legs equally as hard as your upper body. As you may already be aware, intense leg training can actually stimulate growth in your chest, back and arms. This is due in part to the increase in testosterone that leg training induces.
4) Increase your EFA consumption. Essential Fatty Acids from sources such as peanuts, avocadoes, fish and healthy oils like flax seed, olive and canola are a great way to naturally boost testosterone levels.
5) Reduce your intake of soy. Soy protein raises the body's levels of estrogen (the main female hormone) and this has a direct negative effect on testosterone levels.
6) Limit your consumption of alcohol. Alcohol has been shown to have quite a dramatic effect on testosterone levels, so try to limit your "binge drinking" nights and keep your alcohol consumption in moderation.
7) Increase your dietary intake of cruciferous vegetables. Broccoli, cauliflower, radishes, turnips, cabbage and brussel sprouts have all been shown to dramatically reduce estrogen levels, thereby raising testosterone.
8) Lower your daily stress levels. Being overly stressed stimulates the release of "cortisol", a highly catabolic hormone that will cause your testosterone levels to plummet.
9) Increase your sexual activity. Sexual stimulation causes the body to increase the production of oxytocin which increases endorphin production (the "feel-good" chemical), and this also raises testosterone.
10) Make sure to get adequate sleep every night. A lack of sleep contributes to cortisol production, and this will lower your testosterone levels.
Start implementing these techniques on a consistent basis and you should experience a noticeable increase in your muscle size and strength gains.
To learn more insider techniques for building a powerful, muscular body, I strongly suggest paying a visit to my website by clicking the link below. You can sign up for my free muscle-building email course to learn even more great tips.
About the Author
Sean Nalewanyj is a bodybuilding expert, fitness author and writer of top-selling Internet Bodybuilding E-Book: The Truth About Building Muscle. If you want to learn how to build the greatest amount of lean muscle mass and strength possible in the shortest period of time, visit his website: http://wolfgrey.turbulence.hop.clickbank.net
